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Alone, not lonely used to be my favorite catchphrase. Appreciating solitude, taking out me-time, and connecting with friends and family when not spending time alone used to be my pass time. The time I moved to a different country for better professional opportunity, my personal life took a setback.
Independence is an ideal. In American culture, few things seem as prioritized as the freedom of the individual.
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Loneliness, though, feels like a threatening concept. This creates a bit of a tension, at least for a garden-variety anxiety-and-depression-suffering-sad-girl like me.
Can being lonely have actual, physiological markers that you can see and feel with your bod? Of course! Existence is a nightmare!
9 solo activities for managing loneliness
Just kidding. Managing our exposure to each other is a complicated thing, though. Everyone needs alone time, but experts agree that we need a considerable amount of human interaction and a few deep, meaningful connections to feel that ever-elusive thing known as contentment. Studies show that those who complain or, more gently put, share their issues with a friend about their problems feel physical relief after commiserating.
An excess of cortisol is something your system might not handle well, so talk out your issues with a friend before you bottle up the problems and get overwhelmed. When your body responds to stress by activating fight-or-flight responses, it becomes harder to shut down at the end of the day and rest, even if you desperately want to just be alone and crash.
Meditation and mindfulness for any mind, any mood, any goal
Being part of a social species is kind of a bitch, huh? Unless you have plans to be productive in your solitude, try leaving your apartment to meet a friend or just walk in a populated place, like a park, to take a break from your brain.
While the hormone cortisol fights inflammation, the fight-or-flight response that loneliness causes drives your body to produce norepinephrine, which actually elevates your white blood cell production and shuts down your bodies natural viral defenses.
In the long-term, lonely people are more likely to fall victim to issues associated with chronic inflammation: cancer, sensitivity to viruses, and infection, to name a few.
Here’s what happens to your body when you’re lonely
Try exercising in a gym, taking a workout class, or just go for a jog in the park to be social and healthy at the same damn time. Furthermore, the same lab discovered that just the memory of being socially excluded is enough to make people feel colder. Simply put, loneliness can give you the chills. As those researchers and grandmothers around the world would suggestthat cold chill of loneliness can be remedied by both the figurative, psychological warmth of social interaction and actual physical warmth that mimics it, like a cup of hot coffee held between your hands.
Balancing alone time and social time
Cuffing season is what happens when temperatures drop in the fall and winter months and the of engagements, relationships, and casual hookups in your social circles rise tenfold. OK, this one is a bit dramatic. Over time, this affects your mortality ratebecause generally, poor health le to a shorter lifespan.
Research shows that married men die slowerwhich is good news for monogamy, but bad news for people who neurotically doubt the institution of marriage itself, like me! In fact, learning to be lonely in a good way—independent!
6 ways alone time is beneficial
In general, making your alone time more meaningful—through exercise, relaxation techniques like meditation, and structured work time for productivity—is key. The physical manifestations of feeling lonely are real.
Luckily, the solutions to loneliness are also real and very simple. Intimate, I know.
Things you can try to help with loneliness
And a few encouraging words on how to balance out your solitude. Your stress hormones elevate. Your nervous system goes into fight-or-flight mode, making it harder to sleep. Your white blood cells elevate, causing possible long-term inflammation. You become colder—literally.
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Your white blood cells elevate, causing possible long-term inflammation While the hormone cortisol fights inflammation, the fight-or-flight response that loneliness causes drives your body to produce norepinephrine, which actually elevates your white blood cell production and shuts down your bodies natural viral defenses. Your lovey-dovey brain falls victim to co-dependent cuffing season Cuffing season is what happens when temperatures drop in the fall and winter months and the of engagements, relationships, and casual hookups in your social circles rise tenfold.
You die faster OK, this one is a bit dramatic. Try for free.